Oct 30, 2019
Money can be a huge source of stress, but it doesn’t have to be.
Today I’m going to share 5 ways you can simplify your finances so you two can enjoy your marriage and money!
How do you feel about the progress you’ve made this year with your finances?
If you’re not quite happy with where you are right now, don’t panic. There’s still plenty of time to reset and reboot things with your money.
Since my Dump Debt Together session aired last Monday as part of the Mamas Talk Money Summit, I have been keeping busy answering some of your questions about changing things up for the better.
I’ve noticed that the biggest concern is getting the ball rolling.
You’re more than welcome to dig around the site and podcast. With over 1,000 articles and 300+ episodes, we cover a lot here on Couple Money.
But I know that approach can make you feel overwhelmed so today I want to wrap up this special series on the podcast with how you can get started.
In this episode we’ll look at:
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Whether you’re the spreadsheet king or queen or more the big-picture person, I think we can all agree that we want to streamline our finances so you can focus on the people and things that matter to us.
You can really dive into the weeds with finances and debate the minute, but if you’re looking for big wins not only with your money but your marriage, here are 5 things you need to focus on.
Why do I talk about money dates so much? It’s because they work!
Pretty much every couple whose paid down debt, saved a significant amount, or is on the path to financial freedom does this.
They may call it something else (like Andy and Nicole with their budget parties 🙂 ), but the idea is the same.
Having a regular time where you’re in a relaxing and low key environment to get together to discuss your dreams and your money
It can be a night out at one of your favorite restaurants or you’re just in the backyard relaxing with a glass of wine by the firepit.
Wherever and however you have your money date, you want to make sure you look at the goals you’ve created together (your WHY) and then review your numbers.
Knowing your budget, your monthly cash flow, and net worth is smart.
If you’re not sure how to start or even begin the conversation about finances, pick up my Jumpstart Your Marriage and Your Money.
I take you step by step through money dates, with conversation starters and ice breaks. I also share a 4-week plan to get you two on the same page with money.
If the idea of making a budget makes you break out in hives, then you have to switch things up.
Typically when someone is complaining about a budget, there are a few key reasons. The root of it for many is that there’s no room in the budget for what matters to you. It’s so strict, you can’t any fun with things.
And while that might look like a good idea on paper – you think you’re going to get out of debt faster or hit your goal sooner – it’s usually an exercise in frustration.
Sustainable is the way to go and for most couples, it’s a process and one of the best budgets to get you started on that path is the 50/30/20.
As you probably figured out, your money (net income in this case) goes into one of three ‘buckets’ of expenses.
A simple trick that’s helped us is scheduling the bills to come out 48 hours after the deposits gone in.
You can use track your progress with apps and options such as:
Don’t forget that along with bills, you want to automate things like your debt snowball or if savings if that’s your goal.
Chances are eating out is a big expense with your monthly budget. Those quick lunches with coworkers seem small, but those constant convenient and on the go meals typically add up to more than you estimated.
Something that I’ve seen that’s helped me curb my spending is using cash.
There are families that like to use cash for multiple expenses and they stash them into different envelopes to track things down, but for me, that was too much work.
I’ve found that just using cash for lunches keeps me aware of what I‘m spending and minimizes me breaking the budget.
Don’t try to work on all your expenses across the board. You can burn out quickly trying to slash multiple expenses at once.
I think one reason systems like Dave Ramsey’s baby steps are so effective is that they have you laster focus in on one step or goal at a time.
You begin with a starter emergency fund, then it’s all in with paying down debt, then you can fully fund your savings, and so on.
While you don’t have to be as gazelle intense as some people are – it can actually backfire with getting your spouse on board – having a priority can be powerful.
Want to optimize your spending? Try monthly challenges with one thing. Give the cash envelope a go next month.
I want you to build better habits, not go for quick wins that get undone by the next month.
If you’re pressed for time, there are options like Trim that can save you money by canceling subscriptions, finding deals with insurance, or negotiating with your cable bill.
Just focus on one thing at a time each month and by the end of the year, you’ll have some big wins.
Thank you so much for listening to the podcast!